This is what has been happening as Little One transitions out of her naps. She doesn’t want to nap, despite my laying with her and reading or singing, she asks to go to the “store” or go to the park. Inevitably after some fun and running off steam, she falls asleep in the car on the way home. So she fights a nap like crazy but then it just naturally happens! Oh three year olds!
Today we had our first home visit as official Adoptive Parents in Training from the Agency Director to go over agency policies and sign a bunch of stuff. We also handed her all of our clearance forms so that she can get them processed. In two weeks she will be back to do our family interview! In the mean time we will get fingerprinted and we will meet with another woman in the office for the PRIDE training. Over the next two weeks we have to keep working on our application packet. We need copies of a bunch of things like home insurance, car insurance, Driver licenses, social security info, dog vaccinations, W2 for last year, etc. We have the CPR manual and can take the test online. We have the car seat safety quiz and the quiz about the orientation manual. We got the stuff in that takes the most time, the clearances, and I had questions about a few forms so we figured out what we need to do for those to get them completed. We are fortunate that the office is willing to come to us and plan around our schedule, especially with my upcoming heart surgery!
I am so excited to get this moving!
Miss Leslie is officially pregnant through surrogacy for the German family. She keeps getting her Beta (HCG) numbers after her recent procedure and they are doubling as should happen. Right now her numbers are right in between twins and triplets. She won’t have her first ultrasound until May 16th so they won’t be able to confirm the number of babies until then. She told me this morning she’s been very worried that the German couple would only want one or two, especially with their advanced age. So she said there could be a chance that they would want to remove one of the eggs. She said at the point that she has the ultrasound there are heartbeats so she feels badly if this were to happen, but she doesn’t want the family to be overwhelmed. I didn’t even know this was an option for families in this situation. Luckily Miss Leslie is very open and I can ask lots of questions! Anyway, I guess this morning she got word from her lawyer that the couple will not remove any eggs, and that they will welcome however many children there are. She was very relieved.
As we slowly prep for some new additions to our home, we also have been thinking of our car situation. My husband drives a Nissan Altima, which for a family of 5 (or 6?) with three children in boosters/car seat would be pretty rough. Luckily I drive a Chevy Traverse, and the middle row in my car is two captain’s chairs instead of a bench. So it is very simple to pop up the third row, latch a booster in the back, and then have two car seats in the middle row. Here is a great explanation of the current safety regulations and suggestions for your child’s size and answers the age-old booster or car seat question! Little One will be in a car seat for a while because she’s only 27 lbs!
I was terrified of the Easter Bunny, Santa, etc. growing up. I was also painfully shy so really talking to anyone I didn’t know was terrifying, especially someone in a suit. So I haven’t forced the Mall Bunny/Santa on Little One. But when she saw THE EASTER BUNNY!!!!! at the mall last Friday, she HAD to meet him. So off she went, $20 and three pictures later and she was super happy. Don’t mind the black eye.
We are preparing, by what we read and by the foster agency, to have a sibling group come to our home with nothing in their possession. Whether it is a legal risk placement or coming from a non-adoptive home, we are preparing ourselves for the fact that the children will have very little. Their little arms and their little hearts may be empty. We are ready for our training and to read as much as we can so we can fill up their little love tanks. Our foster agency prepared us by saying that a lot of placements happen over the summer because the children are out of school and can transition into a new school year together with their new classmates. Also, judges in Pennsylvania (if not in other states) will not terminate parental rights until there is a family waiting for the children. So if they have been in a home that cannot adopt or chooses not to, they will not be moved in with their adoptive family until everything is in place, and often they make sure this coincides with the summer break. The post below from Rebecca shows that children living with foster families for years may make the transition to their adoptive home with very little, if nothing at all (including their prescriptions).