The Nanny Search

So, I am sad to say, our time with Miss Leslie has come to an end. It’s been about three weeks since she’s been here last. Because of my surgery my mom’s been here. I’ve kept in touch, finding out about all of her doctor’s appointments, ultrasounds and making sure she is feeling okay. I always told her that I would be a back up for her three kids should anything happen or she needs a break. Luckily they are between the ages of 11 and 15 so they’re pretty self sufficient on the days she needs to rest.

We met at a local park to talk things over and so Little One could see her. For a woman pregnant with triplets three weeks is a long time! She’s 10 weeks pregnant but looks 30 weeks because of the triplets. She’s really popped out! Her doctor told her that she’ll be on bed rest in July. So before all the good nannies/babysitters have been snatched up for the summer (maybe most have already), I posted an ad and I’m interviewing new candidates this week! I still am only looking for about ten hours a week like Miss Leslie helped except for a little more on weeks that I have appointments or heavy work load. We prefer someone that can help year-round and not just for the summer but I’m not sure that will happen. I am interviewing three girls and one can only do it for the summer but so far she’s my favorite.

It’s tough to say goodbye to Miss Leslie. She’s been such a help and someone I could truly trust with Little One. After being a mom to three, with her two boys being autistic, she has a wonderful spirit and demeanor with kids. I never worried about having a health emergency because I knew I could count on her. I know we will keep in touch, we’ve been so close for the past three months. It sucks having to train a new person!! I’m hoping that she’ll be able to come back to us in January after she has the babies.

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References, Check

Our next meeting with the foster agency is next Thursday, so I emailed the director/our specialist to see how things were coming along. She said that all of our references are in and my mental health statement is in. She said she needs our health histories (mine is mostly done, just waiting on the darn x-ray results and hubby is going tomorrow for his). She also said that my mom, who has done just the child abuse clearances for North Carolina, will need both the NC state police clearance and the FBI clearance. So we are working out how to get those done now! The director wasn’t quite sure how to secure out-of-state clearances so I did some research online for her. Sounds like we’re moving along…

I have finished reading through the seven sections of PRIDE and I have done all of the homework worksheets. I still need to do the CPR training and testing online, otherwise I have completed all of the application! I’m excited at how quickly this is moving along but I am still just ready to start finding a match… Maybe it’s just thinking of three months of summer alone with a crazy three year old who is missing her school friends. I’ve been doing a lot of research on local library programs, bounce house memberships and children’s museums, but I know she will truly miss spending three mornings a week with her friends at school! We’ve made friends with a family up the street who have two children close in age to Little One, and I told that mom that we need to make our playdates regularly scheduled for the summer so we don’t both go crazy. She was totally on board so we’ll see how that ends up working out! I scheduled Little One for a week-long soccer camp for three and four year olds, but that is a half hour each morning for five days. Maybe that will tire her out for a week!

 

Our Weekend in Pictures

I hope everyone got to enjoy their weekend with their families and friends! We were lucky that my mom was still in town and my brother in law came to visit. We got a lot done and had fun doing it!

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Hubby has been eyeing the neighbor’s jeep and finally took it for a test drive, negotiated, and bought it! Title transfer won’t be for a few weeks so he didn’t get to drive it this weekend, which he was totally bummed about.

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We had lots of ice cream. Central Pennsylvania seems to be the soft serve capital of the US. It’s crazy! There are so many different soft serve places to try, way more than in North Carolina. And it’s cooler here! I can’t wrap my head around it. But here’s our newest find, and they dip their cones! So this is peanut butter soft serve ice cream dipped in chocolate… tastes like a really good Klondike bar!

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The ice cream man also made his inaugural visit… Little One said “I never in my life knew that there was an ice cream truck!” She cracks me up.

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We have beautiful trees in bloom…

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Not sure what it is but it sure is pretty!

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The sky was blue and the sun was shining, spectacular!

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We visited the driving range around the corner from our house… it was empty! My mom and Little One picked up the balls closest to the tees and then we practiced hitting them…

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Hubby tried to get her going right handed but it turns out she’s awfully like me, and switched around to hit leftie!

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Our Memorial Day feast included BBQ chicken for me and seafood for everyone else, including Little One who wolfed down some crab legs!

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I heart the USA!

Long Weekend

This weekend was super long for me. And no, it wasn’t because it was a three day weekend and muffin had no school. Last Thursday I had my TB test done as part of my physical/health history for our foster/adoption agency. I went back Saturday morning to have it read. My mom noticed it looks pretty irritated but I figured I just got lotion in it or something. Well, sure enough, the nurse started drawing marks and measuring the lump and my test was positive!! Lordy. So since it was a long weekend I had to wait to get my chest x-ray/blood test to determine whether I actually have TB or just the latent TB infection. It was a long three days. I was trying to figure out where I could have possibly gotten infected, and whether anyone else from my family is infected (re: my daughter). I also am concerned how this will affect our fostering. Sigh. Since I have absolutely 0 symptoms of TB, it is my educated guess that I have the latent infection, and will have to go on a round of 9 months of antibiotics. Loads of fun. I am hopeful that it is a false positive but I’m not sure how that would come about. I am sure that my husband will need to be tested, and if he is positive then it is our guess that we got it at one of my recent hospital stays. It was a bummer of a long weekend, as I felt very uneasy and concerned about how this will all play out. I also really don’t want to have TB!! It’s a very nasty disease.

In Memoriam

Thinking of those that have lost their lives, their loved ones and those that routinely put their lives in danger so the rest of us can have lovely three day weekends with our families. I have many brave men and women in my family that are currently serving and I am so proud of each and every one of them. Enjoy your day and hug your babies!

Update: My Boss

I took over for my boss at the end of April/May 1st. She spent 24 days at her brother’s house in Wisconsin, detoxing and shopping and doing all sorts of fun things while I ran her business from three states away. Not only ran her business, but grew her business. Now, she’s off for 10 days on a family trip to Germany. Anyone have bets on her sobriety when she gets back?? I just don’t know how healthy she can get going back to her husband who socially drinks most evenings and her boys, who are newly legal and drink like college kids drink. I feel badly for her because she is so lost in her disease. I feel badly because I remember her when she was lively and brilliant. Now her sparkle is all gone and she’s lost. Lost in her addiction and ego and depression. I hope for her to get better but I just don’t see it happening in her current environment. And I would hate for her to go back to her brother’s house for another month if she just can’t face reality. She needs to get sober in her current life, and that includes her husband being supportive of her addiction and sobriety. Until that happens, I will be running her business. Which includes being on call 24/7, holiday or no holiday, surgery or no surgery. Sigh. Good thing is I just signed on a new client! Lots of work for this holiday weekend. Enjoy your three days off (if you have it), and remember those who have gone before us in support of our freedoms. 

I Don’t Care

This is an attention-grabber, for sure. But the sentiment is true for many different causes, not just children’s causes. If we don’t know someone involved in a cause or can’t relate to it, does it have merit in our lives? If you don’t know someone that has breast cancer, is it less scary? If you don’t know someone that has depression, is it less real? I think this article is trying to get at a bigger picture of helping others even if you can’t fill their shoes for a day. Even if you don’t know what they’re going through because you haven’t been through it. Having compassion and giving support despite difference.

 

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