I got my hands on the child profiles. It was only for a few hours and I wasn’t allowed to copy, fax or scan them. I did take notes. We will receive a formal, completed copy after the adoptions go through. The profiles that I read were only through August 2010 so they were only about halfway complete. Most is what I expected with a Bio mom giving birth at 17 and with both parents having Hep C. I did learn that CYS had a case open from the birth of our oldest daughter all the way through until when they were actually placed in care. So social workers were out at their house very often to check on the kids. And the parents were given many opportunities during those first five years to clean up their act (literally and figuratively). After reading the profiles it is hard to imagine how they returned home after their first year and a half of placement in foster care. The profiles read like a case for adoption. Parents not trying, parents not succeeding in meeting court requests, visits at CYS not going well, etc.
All three kids were tested in 2010 for Hep C. Two girls tested negative and Little Man’s test was not back at the time that the profiles were written. I’m guessing that means it was negative but we will definitely have that checked upon. I found out that (on my birthday) in 2010 our newest little daughter got tubes in her ears so that was what those codes were about in her file. Her profile has that no birth records were available, which we all know is crap because it showed up on her print out at the doctor so our case manager will push for those to be found.
Otherwise the profile was pretty much what we had discussed with the case worker/when we got the referral for the kids. They’ve also filled me in on a lot of what happened, to their recollection. It is sad but didn’t bum me out as much as I thought it would. I am happy they are here and that I am their mom. I am sad and grieve for their past and their relationships but I know that I will do my best to support them every day.
Our permanency specialist called as well and she’s coming out the 30th with our updated profile to go over any questions she has. I sent all the adoption paperwork with our case manager today so she will have time to look over it before our meeting. Sounds like we are progressing towards the November 7th adoption date!
Now to just find a venue for a kick-butt celebration party and figure out something special for the kids to wear… Any suggestions are welcome!