Everyone talks about marriage being hard and having to work for it. I think that’s a load of crap. Marriage in and of itself is not hard. It’s all the other life events and relationships that strain your spousal relationship. If my husband and I did whatever we wanted all day and were only just married, we would be fine. If we just had to be, and to stay married, it would be easy peasy. But we have jobs and bills and kids and pets and snow coming from all directions and freezing cold weather and kids with school delays and closings. This is what makes marriage hard, and it isn’t even marriage, it’s life. Life is hard, people. Loving my husband and caring for our relationship is not hard. Being equal and loving and attentive to your spouse when you have two kids with stomach bugs pooping their pants and another kid failing every class and a fourth kids that will.not. get along or be nice to others? Yeah that’s super exhausting. My husband is a saint.