This morning I met with an OBGYN who specializes in high risk pregnancy, or a Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist. He was wonderful and very knowledgeable. He was positive for me to have another pregnancy if we wish, whether or not I have the heart surgery (but also said I should have the heart surgery). So if I do get pregnant again, it won’t be until my cardiologist deems me as “cardiovascular” stable. Which could be some time, and I am already 32. I would have to go off my current medications (aspirin, plavix and lipitor) and give myself daily injections of Lovenox. Of course, I don’t have the blessing from the cardiologist yet. But I was very frightened that the opportunity would be off the table.
I didn’t really know what to ask the specialist going in, so I did some online research. Here are some links to common questions that you might want to ask when meeting with a MFM specialist.
Sorry I dropped off the face of the planet… Or so it seems. My new laptop has yet to ship so I am lost, both professionally and personally. I don’t even want to get into all that was saved, moving and otherwise, on that computer. I do back up my files regularly, but because of the move it has been a while. And a lot has happened!
A few updates, for those of you still with me!
The director of the foster agency that we met with has invited us to start training this Friday. We are not ready to commit to his agency until we meet with his permanency specialist and at least one other agency. There are 3 total that I have been in contact with since the move and we are not ready to commit until we have exhausted our possibilities. We also need to see the cardiologist and make sure that I don’t need surgery before we make a commitment. While that was supposed to happen within a month of my hospital discharge, and despite my frequent phone calls, I do not even have an appointment scheduled. This guy is harder to see than the President!
Tomorrow I have my first of two different ob/gyn or Maternal Fetal Medicine appointments to find out if I can have any more children in the future (not that we are necassarily going that route) and to find out my options for birth control. I am weirdly nervous for my consultation. I have read a bit online about pregnancies with PFO and they seem to be either totally normal or they go horribly wrong! And while my husband and I have been unable to conceive a second time and agreed to pursue fostering/adoption first, when someone tells you that you should’t have more children there’s some innate reaction that makes you feel like it’s a personal challenge. Like, oh I can’t have kids/shouldn’t get pregnant? Now that’s my entire life goal to prove you wrong!