My kiddos completed their first full week of school on Friday. It was a ROUGH week. For everyone. I think that I should have better mentally prepared for it. Instead, I was anticipating a great week with little to no issues. This set me up for failure as I was super wrong!!
Anne had a lot of trouble with math homework, particularly with rounding. Like most of my kids she shuts down when she gets any sort of constructive criticism, and math seems to bring this trait out the most. I was so hopeful that having her repeat 4th grade would help her immensely, but that just isn’t the case. She was also grounded this week due to poor choices made over last weekend, so she was a sorry case. Anne is nearing the end of her trauma recovery program, and as they were going over past trauma this week she made an accusation against one of her former foster brothers. Because she was at counseling and they are mandated reporters for the state of Pennsylvania, they had to write up a report and submit it to CYS. We were pretty shocked, first of all, that she had never mentioned this before. Secondly, Anne is very hypersensitive to anything that she might think is inappropriate or crosses boundaries. The incident that she reported to the counselors may have been misconstrued by her. At the greatest, it was something inappropriate by a high school boy that may or may not have been done on purpose, or even done at all. Scarlett was supposedly there for this situation and she doesn’t recall the event at all. So it’s hard to judge. This brought us to talk to all kids about if something should happen that they feel is inappropriate or crosses their boundaries, they need to tell a trusted adult immediately. It is hard to remedy a situation that took place over a year ago and people’s memory can change as to what happened. So we used it as a learning example, but we are wary that the end of Anne’s program is coming up and we are trying to figure out if she made the most of the situation or we are right back where we started from.
Huck had an equally as rough first week. By Tuesday he was a sobbing mess. He lied to counselors at the trauma recovery program and they called him on it. Which is good, but he does not deal with confrontation very well and the counselor that was in his face is kind of a bull dog so I’m not sure the discussion went as well as it could have. I laid with Huck in bed for a half hour, just holding him while he cried. He is most affected by transition, so while he loves school and is having so much fun with his peers, he definitely misses being at home too.
Scarlett was full of piss and vinegar this week. She is a big napper so being in school and missing her afternoon naps has not been kind to her mood. She has been grumpy and out of sorts. She cried at the drop of a hat this week, over little and inconsequential things. Her teacher seems awesome so I know she’s doing great during the school day, she just falls apart when she gets home. She had a lot of trouble counting coins for homework this week, and she made four attempts before giving up. I consulted with one of my friends who is a teacher and she gave me a couple of good tricks to help Scarlett count. Anne also saw Scarlett at lunch without her glasses, which is a big no-no. She broke her last pair of glasses at school because she wasn’t wearing them when she should. She really has no reason to take them off! So I discussed with Scarlett the importance of wearing her glasses. Her vanity takes over quite often and I know she takes them off to make an impression.
Madeline did very well this week without her siblings. I was worried that she would miss playing with them. We started going to the Y so that I can work out and she plays in the kids area. There are usually one or two other kids there so she enjoys playing with them. Her preschool doesn’t start until after Labor Day so we have a week and a half until then. She did very well at home, except for some whining. I think that’s just part of her personality though! She’s used to being catered to by her siblings and Mama just doesn’t put up with waiting on her hand and foot. She has an interesting personality, being the “first born” by nature and also the “baby” of the family. I feel like those are the perfect storms to be spoiled all your life! She is a natural leader and her siblings often follow her lead. They love to help her when she asks, and she gets angry with them if she doesn’t ask and they try to help her!
On top of our long week my father in law came for his yearly visit, with about 5 days’ notice. So I was trying to clean the house and grocery shop, etc. before his arrival on Friday evening. I do much better planning ahead but wasn’t given much time!
I am glad that we have this week under our belt and I’m hopeful that this week will be better.